Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
We had our first bible study this past week of our Uninvited series by Lysa Terkuerst. I was a little nervous with the size of the group. It was me and two ladies… I’m not the greatest of conversationalists but, like always, God showed me that numbers don’t matter. We had great conversation! I was shown that it doesn’t matter if it is just me or it is a room full of women, He will speak to me regardless. I just have to listen!
In our video session we had a section that was devoted to the group being honest with what they wanted from the group. What they needed help with and what they wanted to get from the group. I heard an overwhelming theme through all the answers… including my own. It was the need to be challenged. The need to be pushed to grow closer to God. The accountability of knowing somebody was going to ask them how this area of their life was going and the desire to not let them down.
I believe friendships are a gift from God and they, just like most things, can be used as He intended them or they can turn to something that pulls us away from Him. I love the verse in Ecclesiastes 4:12. Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. I think most can easily agree that having a friend or companion makes the struggles we face in this life seem not so bad. It is easier to have a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, somebody that will be there to support us through the bad and celebrate with us through the good. I believe the first part of this verse shows us that God would agree. I believe He created us this way. We can see this in other verses as well:
1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
He desires for us to have friendships. However, let’s look at the second part of that verse. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Throughout the first part of this verse and before God is discussing two people standing beside each other and helping each other up when one falls. Now He mentions a cord of 3 cannot be easily broken. I believe He is giving us the key to the friendships and relationships we should be finding. The 3rd cord should be Him. When we take our friendships or relationships and intertwine them with God they can not easily be broken down by the things this world brings. Centering our relationships around Christ is key. He is to be our third cord. When you fall it won’t just be a person to lift you up. You will have His hand along with your friend’s hand to lift you back up. The support you get from your relationship will come from God’s strength and not our own.
In this small group that met together to learn more about how to ‘Live Loved’, the first steps to finding friendships that had Christ intertwined were taken. I would encourage each of you to seek out and take the same steps. Find friendships or relationships that put Christ at the center and dive in. I actually picture using the same enthusiasm of jumping into a pool with a big ole’ canon ball jumps. You know the kind that make a big enough splash to drain half the water from the pool. Use that same enthusiasm in your relationships with Christ intertwined.