‘The heart of her husband safely trusts her’… The hardest question to face during this week is have you demonstrated an attitude and character of trust. Are you reliable? When your loved one isn’t around can they trust you to speak of them in a manner that will not demean who they are? Are you building your family and your loved ones up or tearing down?
I have to say this is another one that hit me hard. I can think of times that I was not speaking of somebody I love in the most uplifting manners. I have forgotten the wise words of Thumper many times, ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all’. There’s the whole double negative there but we get Thumper’s point. If what you are saying isn’t going to paint your husband or loved one in a good light, does it need to be said ? I think we know the answer to that… no. In Proverbs 14:1 the Bible says ‘The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.’ Are we being the wise woman or the foolish.
What about our actions? How can they display our trustworthiness? Here comes the ‘do as I say, not as I do’. Actions speak volumes and you can give all the advise and make all the promises you want but if you don’t follow through with action, your words become meaningless. 1 John 3:18 tells us ‘Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions’. If you tell your loved one you will pick something up or meet them somewhere, do it. Do everything in your power to follow through on that promise. Do everything you can to keep your words about them loving.
In our book, Beautiful in God’s Eyes, Elizabeth George tells us about her trip to the Temple Mount. She stood at the cornerstone of this temple and thought about how the strength of the cornerstone related to our Proverbs 31 woman. She says, ‘Like that wall, your marriage can be strengthened as you, my sister in the Lord, become – by His grace – a virtuous woman of strength who stands steady as a rock’. She also points out in Psalm 144:12 (KJV) the Bible refers to us as corner stones. Jesus is referred to as our cornerstone in Ephesians 2:20. He is our foundation and what holds all of us up to keep us sturdy as long as we stand on Him. This blew my mind to see God refer to me as a cornerstone the same as we refer to Him. How can I be a made a symbol that points to Him?! God fashioned marriage after Himself and so He has placed us as cornerstones in similarity to how Jesus Christ is our cornerstone. We have the power to let our house crumble if we should choose to do so. Christ has given himself as an example to us in how we can be our families cornerstone. While He was on earth He called himself a servant to His people. Why would we think this role is too lowly for ourselves? Jesus didn’t throw around how powerful He was while He was on earth. He came down to show us that the position of ‘helper’ (see Genesis 2:18-20) was not something weak but held great power. Jesus demonstrated power under control. Our family relies on us to fulfill what the Great Creator made us to be. They rely on us to keep control of the power we wield. We are strong as women and hold great power in our families. It is up to us to use it as God has entrusted us to do so. As Spider-man says ‘with great power comes great responsibility’.
Through this week start looking at ways you can build your family up. Make it a point to offer uplifting words to your husband and children. If you are not yet married, you too can get to work on this aspect of your life. Get practice offering words of encouragement to friends and family. Get to work on following through with promises made. Make yourself reliable, encouraging, the cornerstone of your family by building your foundation on our Great Cornerstone. He will give us the strength and guidance to do this right!
As a side note, the book asks the question ‘didn’t Satan deceive her (Genesis 3:1) when she was away from her husband’s protection and failed to check in?’ I believe this to be an error because in verse 6 of the same chapter (in all versions too) it states that she gave to her husband who was with her. Adam was there with her when she was looking at this tree and contemplating eating it. This is a prime example of how we can either build up or tear down our family. Eve was offering food to her husband. He knew it was wrong to eat however, his wife was offering it. We hold more power than we would like to believe in our families. It is up to you to wield it as God intended us, to build up, or to use it to tear down.
We can find multiple examples of women in the Bible that use the power they have to pull their loved one down and cause harm rather than provide support or help. Herodias, in Mark 6, uses her daughter to kill John the Baptist. Job’s wife, in Job 2, tore down instead of uplifted her husband during such a trying time their family was in. In 1 Kings 21 we see Jezebel offer another poor example of a virtuous wife. There are more throughout the Bible showing that the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 truly is a rare jewel. However, Ruth offers us a great living example to contrast all the poor examples. This week look at Ruth again and see how she lived this week’s character trait. How did she prove to be trustworthy and allow her family (Naomi and Boaz) to safely rest in her? You can leave your thoughts in the comments on this page or the Facebook page.